Mum who lost 10 stone says she was ‘too tubby to play with baby son’
NEW Mum Emma Walker was shamed into slimming after suffering the humiliation of being too fat for ‘ floor play’ at mother and baby club.
At a size 26 weighing 19 stone 4lbs she was too fat to kneel on the floor like the other mums. At her size she knew she’s never get back up.
But not being able to kneel or sit on the floor with baby Ted left her embarrassed and ashamed.
On top the shame of having to sit on a chair while other slimmer mums cooed over their babies on the floor, Emma dreaded weaning Ted because she feared passing on her bad food habits.
And the thought of him hearing the cruel comments she was often subjected to was devastating. She had once been ‘scored’ 2 out of 10 by a stranger in a bar.
So she signed up to a meal replacement plan when Ted was 12 weeks old ditching all food for shakes. When he was six months of the pair ‘weaned’ together on solid foods and by the time he turned one she was already 8 stone lighter.
Her son is now two and Emma is a size 10 weighing 9st 12lbs having lost 9st 6lbs.
The former teacher turned slimming consultant says she can now get down on the floor to play with her son easily – as well as running around after him.
She said : ‘ Looking after a newborn when you have a BMI over 41 is exhausting. I was a mess physically and emotionally.
‘I was barely able to bend down to pick him up let alone sit on the floor and play with him.
‘My hips and knees were painful and I was so envious of the other mum’s at baby groups who could sit or kneel with their little ones during tummy time.
‘My son deserved better so I did it for him and now hopefully he will never have to hear the kind of nasty comments I used to put up with. Now we love getting on the floor to do a puzzle and play trains together.’
Emma was always big but says her weight spiraled out of control when she went to university.
Living on a diet of pizza and beer for three years saw her balloon. But that didn’t stop her meeting her future husband planning and logistics manager Neil Walker.
But Emma was subjected to name calling wherever she went and got used to comments like ‘ wide load.’ Once she was even told by a man in the bar that he had scored her two out of ten for her appearance while her slimmer mate was a ten out of ten.
She said: ‘ I told him he was a really nasty person and left it at that or I knew I would be opening myself up to more grief.’
Emma managed to lose six stone for her wedding day in 2010, but within months of the wedding had started gaining weight again.
She said: ‘ My motivation was gone because I slimmed for the day, not to change my life.’
Giant portions and her sweet tooth meant by 2015 she was 19 stone. When she found out she was pregnant in February 2014 she was warned that her weight put her and her baby at risk.
But she kept binging on big home cooked meals, followed by slabs of chocolate and constant snacks.
Her son was born on October 23rd 2014 but Emma found looking after him tough.
‘I was constantly out of breath and uncomfortable and it hit me that it was only going to get harder as Ted got older and started crawling around.
‘I knew I would never be able to keep up with him when he started walking.
‘I was also terrified that if I weaned him I would pass on my terrible habits and I did not want to do that. Like any mother, I wanted to best for him and that meant being able to show him how to be healthy.
‘Deep down I knew I had to lead by example but I was still gorging on junk and takeaways.’
But after the shame of not being able to get on the floor for tummy time at the mother and baby club when he was five weeks old she vowed to lose weight. She said: ‘ The leader told us to lay our babies on the floor and kneel next to them but I had to out Ted at my feet and stay join the chair. I looked and felt the odd one out but I knew if I tried to get down there I would never get back up.’
In January 2015 when Ted was three months old she researched the Cambridge Weight Plan.
She ditched meals for meal replacement shakes and lost 10 pounds in the first week.
By the time Ted turned six months old three months later she was four stone lighter and life was dramatically different.
She said: ‘ I then moved onto sold food again at the same time as my baby so we weaned together.’
Emma continued on the Cambridge Plan and by the time Ted turned one in October last year she was eight stone lighter and has since lost even more.
She now weighs 9st 12lbs and Ted has just turned two.
Emma said: ‘It might sound cliché but it really has changed my life. Every mother wants to be the best mum they can be and now I know I am.
‘I now feel 10 out of 10 which is all that matters.